You’re not supposed to be perfect.
You’re not supposed to be “doing” or “achieving” all of the time.
You are not a machine.
You’re not a robot.
You’re not going to do everything well, all of the time.
You’re going to miss workouts.
You’re going to eat junky food for 10 days straight sometimes. Maybe 14 or 20 days. Maybe 3 months non-stop.
You’re going to say the wrong thing.
You’re going to stumble and fall down.
You’re going to not have a clue what you are doing and fear that someone will realize that.
You’re going to wish you reacted differently with your kids, your significant other, with your coworkers or friends.
You’re going to want to give up, change course, try something else or quit!
You’re going to think you look stupid, foolish, awkward or rude.
You’ll wish that you made different decisions at times.
You’re going to get wrinkles, find gray hairs and wonder if your knees always looked like that.
You’re going to eat more than you “should” have.
You’re going to fail at some things, sometimes a lot of things.
You’re going to feel like everyone has it all figured out but you.
You’ll probably also have some regrets and gaffes.
None of this means something has gone wrong in your life.
You’re human. Your job is to live the life of a human. These mistakes, awkward parts and frustrations are part of the job description. Yes, there will also be amazing periods of time where everything feels great and everything is working out well – but life is all of these parts together, not just the ones we would choose for ourselves.
Things are not always going to go the way we want them to and we’re not always going to be able to perform the way we think we should. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with us.
In our idealized world we’d always eat right, take great care of ourselves, speak eloquently, do things right the first time, always know the answer and never waver in our convictions or our purpose. But there’s no such thing as perfect. There will never be such a thing as “having done enough”, feeling like you’ve accomplished all you’ve been here to do.
Expecting ourselves to always perform better, to always produce more and to do so with a smile on our face is to constantly feel disappointed in ourselves or feel like we are lacking something.
The stumbles, the falls, the mistakes, the good decisions, the bad, the love, the laughter, the tears, the high points and the low. All of it makes you the person you are going to become.
All of it is a part of your journey, even if there doesn’t seem to be any rhyme or reason for it right now.
You’re enough as you are.
You are doing ok.
You are doing the best you can.
Cut yourself some slack.
Wherever you are right now, doing awesome things or hanging on by a thread, it’s the right place, for right now, for you and you alone.
Hang in there lady.
Give yourself a hug.
Pat yourself on the back.
Tell yourself it’s going to be ok and that you’re doing the best you can.
Because it’s true.
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